MY STYLE
My domination style is casual, lighthearted and focused on fun and authenticity. I am irreverent and non-conforming inside, and outside, of BDSM. I like people who think for themselves, lean into their humanity and don’t take themselves too seriously.
I rid myself of the stereotypes about Dominatrixes and submissives years ago and I only play with people who have done the same. I take the time to get to know each person that I play with and I demand the same respect and freedom in return.
People who assume that all Dommes are the same need not apply. I don’t wear what you want, look the way you want or act the way you want. My personhood is not a democracy that others get to vote on. I’m not a cookie cutter person and (hopefully) neither are you. I’m not a Mistress, a Goddess, a babe, a Lady, a Priestess, a doll or a kinky jukebox waiting to fulfill your fantasy.
I am Bastienne, I love FemDom and I’m fucking awesome at my job so wipe your mind of all the assumptions you have about BDSM and let’s start fresh in my silly, fun, kinky corner of the world. Also, you can call me Mommy if it tickles your fancy ;)
MY SPACE
Like me, my space is practical, comfortable and chill. I don’t have traditional dungeon furniture because I don’t offer traditional domination. The few staples I’ve kept are the ones that have proven themselves useful over the years, like my smother box, my bondage bed and tool box full of duct tape and dildos.
I work from a small space that I created called The Wiggle Room. It’s full of bright colours and plants. It’s not everyone’s cup of tea and that’s the way I like it. I prefer playing with folks who come to see me - for me - not because I have a particular piece of furniture or equipment.
It’s a personal choice but it has proven quite effective in cultivating the relationships that I like.
Those who would prefer a Saint Andrew’s Cross, a slave cage and other more traditional, dungeon-like elements should check out Studio Ludus and the Dommes who host from there. They are talented, passionate and they are more aligned with what you’re looking for.
MY TIME
Time and energy is the most important thing to me. I respect the time of others without a second thought. I don’t reach out unless I’m serious about following through, I don’t cancel or show up late, I don’t offer services without confidence, I don’t speak unless I think it’s useful or relevant to the person I’m speaking to and I never show up unprepared.
I only share my time with people who reciprocate this sentiment.
I pour my heart into my work and I refuse to spend time with people who can’t be bothered to put in the bare minimum effort - like reading my website or following my explicit instructions.
I am very ‘block’ happy. I will permanently block people who try to negotiate with me, try to talk to me for free, make me repeat myself, don’t listen, don’t read, don’t follow instructions or don’t know anything about me, my style or my hard limits. Time wasters of any ilk need not apply.
MY PEOPLE
My regulars and the people who enjoy my style are people who are sweet, respectful and introspective. They are intelligent, curious, generous and self aware. They take the time to get to know me inside and outside of play.
I play with folks of every gender expression, body type, race and experience level. I am a naturally sweet and welcoming person and I tend to attract similar folks.
People who like my style and visit me often tend to love my silly, self deprecating manner as well as my genuine passion for kink. They like that I’m open and honest about what I’m into, what I’m good at, as well as what I need to learn and the mistakes I’ve made.
I get along best with people who view BDSM as a deep, almost spiritual pursuit of acceptance, self analysis and expression.